Wedding checklist for For a girl of eighteen, that meant I should start looking for a husband. While I was out with friends one day in Lausanne, I met Johan, a young Swedish man who was to fulfill that role. We decided to get married when he was in his twenties, and once married we moved to Sweden. Though starting a family in Sweden seemed exciting, I had problems adjusting to the dark winterish climate, the Scandinavian temperament, and the language barrier. Worse yet, I had no friends. My husband’s family pushed me to learn Swedish, but that forced me to venture out into the cold winter nights to attend Swedish lessons. After two years, my husband finally finished his studies, and took a job with the United Nations Development Program, as a junior officer. Wedding checklist 2016.